|Anniversary picture from last year.|
|Just a couple of kids, working with some kids.|
Our dating life had some up and downs but within a few months I knew he was it for me. I was done looking for Mr. Right,I had found him in Zach. We talked about marriage for months before he finally popped the question a year into dating on July 4, 2005. He took me for a picnic lunch at the place we first met, the church, and asked me to marry him. It was perfect.
|Our first "couple" pic|
We didn't have a ton of money so we honeymooned in Santa Fe for a couple of days before we had to return to work and school. So begins married life.
|Hanging out in Santa Fe with my 20 year old husband.|
That first year of marriage was so hard. We were trying to figure out what being married really meant. We had to learn to put each other first, above everyone else. We had to learn to communicate. I'll be honest, there were moments that first year that I thought about calling it quits. There were moments that we almost let our differences break us.
|First Christmas as a married couple.|
|He's the best dad.|
It wasn't easy, but we figured it out. We went the next year after Zoe was born, fumbling along best we could. Things were hard and again, I had doubts. The turning point happened one Sunday in May a year after Zoe was born. I found myself in our bedroom, alone and fuming about something Zach had done. I was angry and hurt and couldn't believe he was just going to let me be angry and hurt alone. Do you know what I did? I sucked it up, got out of bed, and calmly as I could, I confronted Zach. I told him that I was hurt and why I was mad. We talked about it. I discovered that he wasn't aware of the transgression that had so upset me. He apologized and we talked for hours after that. I learned in that moment, that if I wanted to have a marriage with him that I had to humble myself and communicate my feelings to him instead of allowing them to build up and fester inside of me. That was a game changer.
Eleven years. It's not a huge amount, but, I know, without a doubt it will continue. We have a lifetime ahead of us, and I am certain, without a shadow of a doubt, that we will share it together. You see, even though I know it wont always be easy, it is so worth it to put in the hard work to ensure we have as healthy a relationship as possible. I know that our kids will grow up believing in true love, because we have shown them what that looks like.
|It looks like this.|