The other day I took the kids to the doctor for Noah's well-visit. On the "well" side of the waiting area there was one other mom and her daughter who appeared to be around three years old. My kids immediately went for the basket of books and each brought me one to read, so we took turns. I noticed that little girl was interested in the story so I read a little louder, drawing an annoyed glance from her mother. The girl then went and got a book and took it to her mother, who this entire time was busy on her phone. The mother read one page and went back to doing whatever it was on her phone. The little girl just sat there with the open book in her hands looking at her mother until the nurse called them back. No lie, it kinda broke my heart.
I will be the first to acknowledge that I have used technology to escape the pressures of motherhood. There are times I get a little annoyed at my kids for demanding something of me when, frankly, I just want to check facebook, read this article, check a score, etc. Then I get a reality check and feel shame for placing all those things, which are so unimportant, before the needs of my family. What are we teaching our kids?
I came across an article claiming that American kids are found to be the most spoiled kids in the world. No shock there. It's easy to see that kids today are completely overindulged and spoiled. What shocked me, and perhaps it shouldn't of, was that in the comments to this article I guestimate that 9 out of 10 commenters, mainly mothers, admitted that they spoiled their children. They also admitted that they will continue to spoil their kids. One commenter passed judgment on another saying that anyone giving their three year old chores was cruel. Another stated that the guilt she felt for working long hours led to her spoiling her child and buying her whatever she wanted.
Wow people! What values we are teaching our children! Not only do we see what we are doing is wrong, we continue to do it! There is always a way we can justify our behavoir. That justification we do just inhibits us from bettering ourselves and being better examples for the kids.
There are many directions I could go with this but I'll stop there. I think you get what I'm trying to say. In short, give your kids what really matters, you. When they grow up and (hopefully) leave your home, they will not be lamenting over the lack of gifts, toys, gadgets they received as a child. Instead, they will realize how very blessed they were to have you as a parent.
Blessings to you and yours today....I'm going to go enjoy mine now...
Here is a link to the blog that took me to the above referenced article.